Shocking REALITY: When GIVING UP makes SENSE
Amidst the plethora of self-help books teaching success tips, the counsel never give up is not rare. While its commonality doesn’t undermine its validity and profundity, we need to know just when it works and when it doesn’t. Looking back over my life, I have seen specific cases where persistence bailed me out to weather the storms and emerge on the shores of victory. I have also known moments of holding to visions whose time was obviously long gone and in the process tagging along losses.
There is a time when giving up is the route to take. I even think it’s a skill to know when to give up and when to hold on and it’s a rare one for that matter. Ask successful people, and they will tell you stories of tenacity along with decent stories of giving up on ideas, projects, investments, relationships or other things worth keeping but not effective for their purpose in the long run.
I have counselled people tenaciously holding on to dreams with no potential to be fulfilled, whose only noble option was to give up. I have counselled couple in courtship who found it so hard getting along but holding on because the dictum says never give up. So they hold on to what they should have let go of, only to give up at a more critical time with unwarranted losses of time, energy and emotional pain. Some don’t even give up until they have become an addition to the divorce statistics.
When you are a visionary with a world conquering idea, who must start and succeed now, then do not give up. But be careful of chasing a vision you have no capacity to execute and this advice comes handy for young entrepreneurs. Don’t toil fruitlessly in barren directions for a big break that never comes. When you have discerned yourself to be on that road, you need to turn back.
The don’t-give-up skill is not more important than the give-up skill. Both will be needed at different times and at different cross-roads in life. Don’t hold on to something that has no capacity to expand or grow. You must recognize it and disconnect from it.
Another case is when a vision is noble but has a wrong timing, either way beyond their time or way behind their time. Understand some businesses are created to serve specific purposes within specific time frames and vanish. I have had to give up on visions I thought will be life time, global projects. I have given up on a fumigation business, a restaurant with a global vision to outperform McDonalds, a decent paid employment after 3 years because they were no longer consistent with the future I was creating under God.
The successive giving up has led me to start a consulting firm. And today, my achievements vindicate my decision. If you find yourself running on an unverified conviction, then it just might be time to re-examine whether you should give up. Don’t persist in vain; consider what is necessary for you per time. This is where objectivity as a balance of hope and audacity comes in. it is what flashes the signal when it is give up time. It is therefore imperative we master the art of giving up as business men, workers, fathers, mothers, wives, husbands and students.
Knowing just when to give up maybe the determinant between failure and success, life and death. Before you give up though, audit. Go for counselling with those you trust, who have the spiritual, professional, experiential capacity to guide you. Check it; don’t just act without thinking it through.
Knowing when to give up and when to hold on is one very vital skill for your peace and balance in the New Year. THIS IS THE LIFE.