JOY versus HAPPINESS: Find out the DISPARITY between the two
As we sojourn in life, events of variable proportions will confront each of us, and the strength to defeat some of the most intimidating situations will come from our individual perceptions and how adequately we can respond to the demand for inner strength. Let it be noted that strength is first of all a state of the mind than a tangible reality. Our beliefs, our thinking, our mindsets, principles, values and rules determine how strong we are in situations. In my coaching sessions, part of what I communicate very strongly is the truth that people should not believe in happiness as they believe in the force of joy.
Every day, I remind myself of my inner responsibility to my outer roles. I have accepted that I am the singular engine, under God, that can give myself the best help, the best support and the best push. I have accepted that our world is full of ups and downs and composure is a critical resource for the discerning, regardless of the odds. I have accepted that the human mind cannot outgrow seasons of crisis; the human mind must simply learn to overcome every contrary situation.
I believe it is in this continuous exchange and overcoming platform that life shares its meaning. It is my responsibility to maintain my composure regardless of the odds. Self-pity is a formidable adversary; and a life of excuse will always be weak, irrelevant and unrewarded. No matter my lot in this life, i have accepted that happiness is artificial and joy is an inner duty to self. If i am joyful, i will be happy. Someone can drink a bottle of beer and be happy instantly. That’s not real. That’s pseudo… since the drink will wear off and the person is back to reality…back to life. Happiness attempts to suspend the issues, leave the moment and leave the problem unsolved. It is a temporary and scripted idea of peace. You will always wake up from the dream if happiness will be your only tool.
Happiness attempts to keep hope alive without specific actions to take to engender a positive, realistic and sustainable way forward. Happiness runs away from the present to hide in the thought of an impossible and unrealistic future. But joy is the governor of the moment. It maintains tranquillity in the face of the strongest adversity. Joy knows that all of life is in phases and every circumstance is built with its capacity to do two things, (1) to present its own opportunities and (2) to fade away.
Life is fleeting. Every situation or circumstance is built with an inherent capacity for temporal relevance and value. Everything. Pain or bliss. Good time or bad time. Up season or down season. Theory or philosophy. System or structure. Law or policy. Person or thing. Blessing or curse. There’s nothing with the right to exist that does not possess its inbuilt capacity to naturally fade in potency as time passes. Great souls must live by this high code that the world is filled with PEOPLE and that God rules in the affairs of men. That beyond hard-work and labour, providence is a major decider of man’s greatest breakthroughs. That life must be a balance of fun-times and serious exchange. That while there is time to do the needful, there is no time to do everything we wish. That we need people but we cannot carry everyone along. That problems are constants and in their solution is the rhythm of life. That only fools work to solve a fact instead of working around them.
You don’t solve facts; you solve problems and work around facts. One of the greatest experiences of the human life is when it is able to truly know that man is by nature a 3-Dimensional Being: a LIFE-GIVER, a COMFORT ZONE, and a CHANGE AGENT. Man is an extremely creative animal with a reasoning and innovative capacity to improve his life as necessary. The human spirit is the most important tool for future relevance, for continuity, peace and meaning; and is totally unbreakable and only defeated by ignorance, fears, opacity and choice. Freedom is a constant and bondage is man-made; and is only sustained by fault. Victory is a right and defeat is nothing but a pathway; while failure is a very strong ladder. Pain is a tool and ignorance is a gift. Man is born with a critical deposit of light but he learns his darkness and incubates his folly.
To live is responsibility and to die is great gain. Breath conquers things, but financial and material success is the lowest expression of meaning. Singleness is an opportunity and marriage is sacred. Profit is a cost and a very important means to more meaningful ends. Violence is for the weak and dialogue is a tool. Existence must not be a SELFISH expression of cause and mission, but an AMAZING OPPORTUNITY to USE TIME, contents and POWER to ESTABLISH meaningful ECONOMIC and SOCIAL order for a world always desperate for it. Mediocrity, corruption, hatred, lies, treachery and evil have a life-span without capacity to sustain themselves and will always be outlived by truth, righteousness, peace and joy.
TIME is always COMPRESSED and COMPLEXITY is always INTENSIFIED. Then, PEOPLE COME and GO but THE MOUTH of the PEOPLE TO RE-ECHO THE CONTENT of HISTORY will ALWAYS REMAIN. That the NAMES of EACH of us will be RECORDED in HISTORY to be RE-ECHOED by the MOUTHS of the PEOPLE FOREVER, for good or bad, or NEVER RE-ECHOED because the existence was too cold and timid to generate ATTENTION. TOMORROW’S PEACE will be CREATED TODAY by those WHO CARED not only for it…BUT also for the MOUTHS and HEARTS of the PEOPLE COMING AFTER. Love conquers all and man is designed with the natural ability to CARE and EMPATHIZE. All of what I have shared here represents what I know to be inner strength. This is the mentality that can thrive in any situation and from any location. For this kind of mind, everything is an advantage. I hope I have helped a bit? Let me get your feedback here.