Between the ARRIVAL of KNOWLEDGE and its EVALUATION and JUDGEMENT, there must EXIST first, an OPENNESS of mind that GIVES the KNOWLEDGE SOFT LANDING, and GIVES the KNOWLEDGE DISSEMINATOR the ENCOURAGEMENT to reveal MORE.
What you should begin to do from here is very simple. It is instructive to note that all actions must be intentional; must be thoroughly thought through and most importantly, all actions must allow caution to be the critical companion in all necessary dealings and exchange. If it was possible to turn back the hands of time, it is certain that most of us will gladly revisit our negative experiences and encounters, as well as decisions and choices that turned out unfavorable and disappointing. I know some people will most likely change who they got married to, many will totally ensure they avoid some people they have in their lives now, some will alter the career choice they have made, others will ensure they never went into the business that caused them losses and penury today, a lot of young people will love to avoid the mistake of sleeping with that guy or that lady that has caused them sleepless nights, pain or disease; a critical mass will prefer to have taken the unpleasant but needful advice of a loved one rather than living with the pains, guilt and regrets of today. Unfortunately, there is no tactic or strategy for eliminating the content of the past, but there’s always a new today with incredible capacity to deliver a beautiful and new future.
The journey of life can be very complex and demanding; and the critical question is: why walk this journey alone? Our journey of life is obviously a single attempt and it’s over before we know it. But with a good guide, even the blind can make his way smoothly and unhindered to the final destination. And if for whatever reason, you still hit your leg on a stone, the weight of the pain can be major or even minor, but the experience of mentoring still provides the shock absorber and innovative way forward. Mentoring is the one word for guidance and accountability. When you run alone, you can run very fast, yet susceptible to error; but when we run together, you go very far and reduce error rate. I cannot but share with you the following nine core reasons why mentoring is very necessary in any human life.
One, MENTORING provides the accountability that the independence of the human spirit needs for check and balance. Two, MENTORING provides the priceless, dispassionate, objective and impartial advice and encouragement that your personal desires and bias cannot rise above. Three, MENTORING gives you a supportive relationship you will always need beyond the world you know. Mentoring assists with critical problem solving. Four, it helps to discover the real problem and get the required help to solve it. Five, MENTORING improves self-confidence as you act on the counsel and wisdom of proof producers who have a track record of competence. Six, when taken seriously and followed faithfully, MENTORING increases your potential for success and drastically reduces your error rate. Seven, MENTORING also offers professional development. Eight, MENTORING encourages development of and reflection on principles, values and practice. And nine, MENTORING gives you the opportunity to be ahead of your peers simply because you are leaning on the shoulders of one or two generations ahead of yours.
You can decide from here henceforth how your life would be lived. WHO is HELPING you? How many people follow his or her wisdom and why? We really need to take a critical look at this question. Where do you draw your succor from? Who is your guide? These are the critical questions. And someone called this morning to ask if I can help. My answer of course is YES…I have helped countless others. If you are asking the same question, the number to call is 08128118884 or email:firstname.lastname@example.org. GO!
One of the goodness of failure is its capacity to instruct on hindsight. As I look back on my own experiences and seek to share about my past failure, I hope you learn a thing or two about the folly of self-conceit. No where does this folly show itself greater than in its self-assured ignorance, disdainful and close-minded attitude to knowledge and the wisdom of other people.
Growing up as a young man, I was naturally gifted with a philosophical, analytical and persuasive skill, a posture that allows me to somehow be ahead of my peers in general interpretation of issues as well as in identifying options. The early recognition of this gift required mentoring and guidance that would have made it more objective, usable and rewardable.
For many common reasons including youthful exuberance, I ignorantly, sincerely and zealously abused this gift. Now I understand that the brewers of evil are not necessarily evil people. They are usually those who were outwitted by evil to do unto themselves the greatest damage, even though sincerely. A warped mindset produced an over confidence that blinded me to the vital channels of truth and development that I needed so badly. Instead, I looked for the solutions only within myself and my obviously limited experience. I acquired a blindness to the wisdom of others and the curiousity it deserves. This was my undoing!
In no time, I became hooked on drugs, girls, parties, fashion, joined the cult and was failing academically. All these culminated into my leaving the University 2 months to my final exam. Hmmm! This slowed down my journey in life, incurring a price of misdemeanour I’m yet to fully recover from in spite of my present enviable status.
I have come to learn that the best of what we will become is not necessarily in us nor within our own opinions alone. Though always within our reach, it is never always within us. We owe it to ourselves to stretch beyond the limit of our personal experiences to find our greatest humility and connect it to the strength and unique advantage that only others can provide.Most of the solutions to our problems and complexities must be greeted with a fact-finding, probing and research posture. We must seek to understand the nature of things, not as they appear to be but as they really are.
Our first contact with new knowledge should be with humility and curiousity, not prejudice, bias, sentiments and self justification. This is because the knowledge that will deliver or create destruction are both rarely recognized in their true capacity at first contact. That is why LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT is subjective as it is not based on actual knowledge of the object of affection. There is a short-sightedness that comes with the arrival of a new experience that makes it difficult for mere men to embrace prescience except by divine interventions. Prescience is our capacity to anticipate future events, or more like this – seeing the end from the beginning. Because of this limitation, It is therefore important that we withhold judgement when coming in contact with old and new knowledge from within ourselves and especially from others.
We need an openness of mind that gives the entrance of knowledge a soft landing. This attitude doesn’t mean approval or acceptance but surely, it creates a platform for clarity. Afterwards, probing and questioning then become tools for fairly judging the veracity and credibility of the new knowledge.To ignore this commitment is to schedule seasons of sincere self-initiated attacks against one’s destiny and an unconscious self-sustained effort to slow yourself down.To go far in life and achieve destiny, I advice you stay open always and embrace the humility that says all of what I know is great, but all of what I must learn is even greater.
When the mind is not directed along these lines, the automatic experiences are losses, pains, regrets, and a life which learning never translates into a knowledge of the truth. And this is a terrible place to be! No matter who you are or what you do, as a rule, please stay open, stay curious and fact-find. Be quick to hear and slow to speak, calm in listening and slow to judge. Refuse to err on major matters of life by seeking guidance instead of experimenting.
Always remember, personal experience is always limited experience and wisdom necessitates an ability to stay open to knowledge and leverage the collective experiences of others to enrich your perspectives. THIS IS THE LIFE!